My Boss is Such a Bitch...

If you haven't already figured it out, I like to play with words.  Whether it is is awesomely alliterating all over the place, or using animated adult language, I love to play with words AND I love to use words to play with and bring humor to others.
Now, some slightly twisted part of me likes to drop a line and then watch the wheels turn while the other person’s brain does it’s best to reconcile all of the pieces of information that I just shared. 🤔


Case in point.  I am self-employed.  When someone asks me to do something at a time when I am busy, I often reply with, “I would love to, but my boss is such a bitch and won’t let me have the time off”.

If the other person has ever worked for someone that they disliked, they might initially feel empathy….until the lightbulb goes off and they remember that I am my own boss!  


The look on their face as that light starts to shine is priceless…..and then we both get a great laugh😂

Just one of the many little ways that I bring humor into my life.

The reality is that being my own boss has lots of Perks AND lots of Responsibility 🙌

Like right now. 
I have it blocked off on my calendar to write this e-mail this morning.  I was reading an article by Brene Brown instead.  
The Universe decided to use my computer downloading and installing an update to “encourage” me to actually get to the task that I had assigned myself. 
Some days are like that. 🙄


Who is the Boss of You?



Most of us have spent much of our lives being told what to do by someone else.  
Someone who we perceived to be in a position of power over us (our parents, teachers, clergy, bosses, and even spouses in some situations) **when my eight year old (who totally believes that she is currently in charge) was younger we would entertain ourselves (OK, I was entertained and my husband tolerated it) by asking her who was in charge and she would, without hesitation, say "You are Mommy" **

The challenging part of this mindset (based on our experience) is that we can struggle some internally as we figure out how to be the boss and employee all at the same time.

The idea of being our own boss and the potential freedom that may bring feels awesome....for the brief period of time that we see ourselves making our own schedule, sitting on the beach drinking fancy drinks with little umbrellas, and bossing other people around.  
Yeah, and then the needle scratches on the record as visions of “Holy shit!  I’m the one responsible for EVERYTHING” interrupt our fantasy of freedom.

The tough truth is that being your own boss is fucking hard work AND absolutely awesome at the same time!

For my business summer can often come with what I call Summer Slowdown.  
Did you know that Anxiety goes on vacation over the summer? 🙄 
Yeah, it doesn’t, but what does often happen is that people (my clients) get busy (take action) over the summer so they “feel” better and make appointments less often during the summer months.
 
Now, I have been to this rodeo a few times (yeah, September is know as “Shitshow September”) so when I look at my calendar and see only half of my session slots filled I take a moment to say “Fuck”and then I get on about my business. 
 
See being in business isn’t just about seeing clients or providing whatever service or even product that you provide.  It is about working on the business itself sometimes. 

Hopefully you do set aside time each week to work on your business not just in your business.  You have to be the employee (providing the service) AND the boss (taking care of all the other stuff that supports your business to run smoothly).

I’m not going to go any farther into that discussion today.  😜


What I want to encourage you to do is to take care of the biggest asset in your business, yourself!

Now I fully own (and share with you😜) that I am a fairly intense (Type A if you must label me) person.  
I’m a first born and a Capricorn, so I tend to think that the Universe set me up!  
That means, though, that I could work pretty much 24/7 (OK, I do actually love to sleep, so probably more like 16/7 😜) which takes us back to the “joke” that I share with people about my Boss being a Bitch.

I could easily be that kind of boss with myself.  The one who works at and in my business almost every waking hour.

While it has not been easy, I have made a concious choice to not be that kind of boss to myself!

If you follow my Instagram @Auntie_Anxiety or Facebook page AuntieAnxiety you may have seen a recent post where I was at the pool (OK, there may be a few posts from the pool this summer). 
 
Yep, it is summer, my client load is low, and instead of sitting in my office panicking or even working on ways to “drum up business”, I choose to spend time outside (and poolside) with friends and family.  


I am that kind of boss 💥

This past weekend I asked my daughter-in-law (yes, I have an 8 year old and a 28 year old who is about to make me a grandmother any moment now 😳😬😂😍) if she had any help lined up once the baby arrives.  
She told me that her mother had taken off work last week (when the baby was due - yep looks like another stubborn one who will fit right in with the rest of us), so she would only be able to take a day or two off once the baby arrives 😔

I looked at my schedule and realized that I would be able to slip over to their house (they live about 5 minutes from my office) for a few hours each day to support them.


I don’t have to ask permission from anyone.  I am the boss😍

Just to be clear: I have systems and structures in place in my business so that when there is an ebb in income, like during Summer Slowdown, I don’t panic.
 
I trust my systems and structures to keep me stable AND The Universe to bring another flow of income my way in time.

The more that I have embraced what is (that clients and income ebb and flow) and slowed down myself, the more my brain responds by being creative and supporting me in getting reinvigorated and excited about my business and ways to continue to grow and evolve in it and with it 😘

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