What's Up Buttercup?
What's Up Buttercup?
I don’t want to write this email.
Really, really don’t want to.
Don’t make me……
OK, fine….hold on while I tell Debbie Downer, Bitchy Brenda, and Judge Judy (that trio in my head who go by the stage name Voice of Doubt) to turn down the volume.
There, that’s better 😜
As I was considering the topic for this email, money was not on the short list.
I had other topics AND I started noticing that I was putting a lot of pressure on myself to come up with the “right” topic to follow up after my audios.
Oh shit, feeling the “NEED” to be “RIGHT”... that almost never turns out well. 🤔
Then my daughter got sick and I let myself watch more television in two days than I had in the entire month prior to that 😬.
Watching TV is one of those things that I used to do to tune out when the overwhelm would hit. These days it is more likely to be some mindless time on social media, so when I found myself binge watching a Canadian Horse related (how my daughter got hooked) Soap Opera (how I got hooked) I knew that the feelings of Overwhelm and the Imposter Police were knocking on my door.
My brain was feeling mushy as I went back to work AND still no clear topic for this email.
Then I got a ping on Messenger from my friend and mentor who put the topic the table: Money. FUCK 😩
She wasn’t the first one to mention the connection between Money and Imposter Syndrome.
A couple of weeks ago my business coach began pushing me (OK, she was compassionately encouraging me, just kind of felt like pushing since I had my feet dug in pretty far) to do my work in being willing to talk about money from the get go with business coaching clients.
Now don’t misunderstand. I have done my work around money. A lot of work around money. A shit ton of work around money.
I am pretty solid (pun intended 💩) when it comes to my money shit AND my VOD shows up when it’s time to share that work with you.
See, Imposter Syndrome tells us that no matter how much work we have done, classes we have taken, books we have read, certifications we have earned: we are not good enough.
We don’t know enough, we haven’t gathered enough, and we haven’t experienced enough.
Voice of Doubt’s favorite song is “Not Enough”.
What a stupid fucking song AND one of those that just gets stuck in there like a fucking ear worm🙄
The first thing I threw up as an obstacle in our conversation was “I guess I have more work to do around my money stuff” 🤔
She looked at me with that look (the one that says “Are you fucking kidding me?”) and gently says, “You’ve done the work, this is just a new way to apply it”. BOOM!
That’s how you Outsmart the Imposter Police!
How many times has a issue, topic, or concern come up with a client and your first thought is “I need to take another course”?
Whoa! Hold on there buckaroo...
I am willing to bet that if you could picture me looking at you with my head cocked to one side and saying “Are you fucking kidding me?”, you would recognize one of VOD’s tunes playing in your head AND if you took a moment to pause you might realize that you are the expert in the room.
Even if your client has the exact same degree hanging on their wall that is hanging on yours, you are the expert in assisting them in sorting out their shit.
Do you know where I have gotten most of my awesome skills from? Working with my clients.
I sure as shit have learned more from doing the work then sitting in a classroom or reading a book!
Oh, don’t get your panties in a wad. Of course I get my CEU’s.
Are you fucking kidding me?
I am a “life long learner”.
I love to learn and share what I have learned AND I do it on my time and on topics that interest me.
I no longer let my VOD have a say in what, when, or how I choose to learn.
Think about that….what would it feel like to be the one deciding what you want to learn and when you want to learn it...
And you thought we were actually going to talk about money today 😂.
Oh, we will, just after we lean more about how to turn down the volume on your Voice of Doubt and outsmart the Imposter Police 😜