What's Up Buttercup?
What's Up Buttercup?
This is my time of year to party 🥳
It started 52 years ago when I made my arrival on the planet for this incarnation. I’m an Epiphany Baby, so Happy Birthday to me!
Then five years ago I took the leap and went full-time into Private Practice, so Happy Anniversary to me!
More recently, like as of Friday, I added another thing to celebrate: a successful premier workshop in my Demote Your Doubt: Be the Boss in Your Business series, so Happy Successful Workshop for me!
I’m feeling a bit like a Queen at the moment….or at least a Duchess 😜 It hasn't always been easy to toot my own horn or call attention to myself AND today I am more willing to do just that 🙌
Anyway thanks for hanging out with me on my birthday 😍
What shall we talk about? It has to be something a least a little deep, because I am not a fan of small talk 😝
How about what it takes to make it to a 5 year Anniversary in Business?
Let me tell you that story 🤓
Once upon a time I was a girl with a dream.
That dream was kind of blurry, but from what I could make out (and what I was experiencing in real life) was that most of the people in charge and bossing me around were morons (don’t get your panties in a wad....not all of them and not all of the time...it just makes for a good story 😜)
What I took from that was I had two choices: 1) I could stick around, bitch a lot, drink a lot, and be miserable or 2) take action and be my own boss.
I chose what was behind Door #2 and haven’t (often) looked back.
Does being my own boss suck sometimes?
Why yes, yes it does.
I don’t get to blame shit on my boss or coworkers, ‘cause I’m a one person show. I am solely responsible for it all, the good, bad, and the ugly.
Would I ever consider (more than briefly) throwing in the towel and finding a job where I just have to show up and someone else is in charge?
Nope, not a chance 😉
For all of the shit sandwiches* that I have had (and will continue to) eat , the freedom and ability to be responsible for the good, the bad, and the ugly makes it totally worth it for me. *Mark Manson "Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck" reference
Isn’t it interesting that so much of this can be boiled down to perspective?
It reminds me of a cartoon I saw many years ago (I am so about to date myself 😳) where two kids were outside of a school room banging chalk erasers on the brick wall. One kid says to the other “What bad thing did you do to get this punishment?” while the other kid looks confused and replies, “I volunteered to do this fun job!” (You have no idea how much time I spent attempting to track down the original cartoon, to no avail 😩).
Yes, being our own bosses when Anxiety and it’s whole clan of misfits (Worry, VOD, and Imposter just to name a few) want to run the show can be exhausting AND when we put the clan members in their place at the foot rather than the head of the table, owning and running our own businesses can be Totally Kick Ass!
So how have I made the past 5 years successful?
A whole lot of “I don’t know what the fuck I’m doing, but I’m going to do it anyway” 😳😬😂
What did that actually look like?
Having ideas, reseaching ways to make the ideas happen, taking the action steps to make the ideas into reality, and then wash, rinse, repeat.
So many coaches are on the scene doing their best to appeal to our desire to take shortcuts.
Now I’m not saying an occasional shortcut isn’t awesome AND I’ve learned my best lessons by going the long way around.
I have made a shit ton (which is more than a ton and less than a fuck ton) of mistakes AND turned each and every one of them into an opportunity (even if the only opportunity was to tell a great story about what not to do 😬).
Have I stumbled and even fallen?
Yep, I have experienced a range of emotions including joy, jealousy, sorrow, stubborn, fear, frustration, anger, and anxiety (just to name just a few 😉).
When the members of my Anxiety clan show up (and they drop by unannounced regularly 🙄), I deal with them.
No avoiding, no procrastinating, no running and hiding (OK, that’s kind of a lie, ‘cause every once in awhile there is a coup and I go hide in a corner and regroup and then come back out and get back in the driver’s seat 😲) and no quitting!
When shit gets real and I’m feeling on shaky ground, I rally my troops both internal and external 🤗
One of the best investments in myself and in my business (and has contributed to my success) has been my own coaching. 🤩
Having a coach as part of my support team (along with my family, friends, accountant, bookeeper, biweekly housecleaner/organizer, and part-time office assistant) has been the #1 Best Investment (yes even better than any technology or book or course or workshop) that I have made as a business owner 🙌
Coaches keep us focused, accountable, and moving forward.
They listen to us vent and then help us problem solve and get back on track. They put fresh eyes on our blurry bump in the road and suddenly the path gets clearer. They kick our ass and cheer us on as we navigate our journey.
So, while I might be a wee bit biased (since I am a coach myself 😊) about coaching, I do believe wholeheartedly that hiring my coach was the #1 best investment that I have made and that it has brought me the highest ROI (return on investment) possible 😘
Alright, that’s deep enough. I’m off to celebrate my day with an awesome brunch buffet with part of my support team (my family).
Thanks for celebrating with me 🤩🎉🤩🎉